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Is There More? Beyond Thoughts in Navigating Seeking Help

Is There More? Beyond Thoughts in Navigating Seeking Help By Dr. Natasha Charles McQueen The journey toward seeking mental health treatment is not linear. It is not always loud.Sometimes it begins with a whisper: Is there more to what I’m feeling than just being tired? Just being stressed? Just having a rough week? That question—Is there more?—can become the quiet entry point into a life-changing decision.For many, the process is filled with reflection, hesitation, fear, and ultimately, hope.Because choosing to seek help is more than a clinical step. It is an act of self-recognition. A decision to listen to your body, your mind, and your unmet needs. In this piece, we explore what this decision often looks like—through symptoms, impact, and personal readiness—blending clinical understanding with real-life experiences that mirror what so many are silently going through. Identifying Symptoms: The Quiet Beginning Often, the first sign that something is wrong isn’t one loud symptom—it’s the slow accumulation of many. They start as background noise and grow until they demand attention. Take John, a 30-year-old graphic designer. He did not label his experiences as depression at first. Instead, he noticed changes: A persistent, heavy sadness that lingered past “bad days” Cycles of anxiety and panic attacks that disrupted his sleep and work Loss of appetite alternating with emotional overeating Chronic fatigue, despite resting Irritability and emotional swings that felt unmanageable Withdrawal from social gatherings he once enjoyed Trouble concentrating and making decisions Thoughts of self-harm that arrived uninvited and alarming Physical symptoms like headaches that seemed to have no cause It was only when the symptoms affected his creative work—and he no longer felt like himself—that John began to consider help. More Than Emotion: The Real Toll of Symptoms Mental health struggles are not just emotional—they are embodied.Emily, a college student, describes it this way: “It wasn’t just feeling sad. It was my chest feeling tight all the time. It was skipping meals and not even realizing it. It was forgetting who I used to be—because I was just trying to make it through the day.” Her academic life suffered. She missed classes. Her friendships thinned. Her sleep was erratic. The line between mental and physical health blurred completely. This is how mental health symptoms show up—in our bodies, our relationships, our routines. The Impact on Daily Life: Quiet Erosion Mental health challenges do not always look dramatic. Often, they look like slow erosion: Work and Academics: Alex, a dedicated teacher, began missing deadlines, forgetting lesson plans, and feeling deep guilt that only made things worse. Relationships: Sarah, a new mother, found herself snapping at her partner, retreating from friends, and questioning if she was “doing it all wrong.” Physical Health: Robert, a retired veteran, began experiencing high blood pressure and chronic pain. It was not until therapy that he realized how much stress was living in his body. Loss of Passion: David, a musician, put down his guitar for weeks. Then months. Music, once his sanctuary, began to feel like a memory. These changes can be subtle. They can be quiet. But they are real. And they often signal that something deeper is happening beneath the surface. Making the Decision to Seek Help: Complex, Personal, Brave So when does someone actually decide to seek help? There is no single answer. But there are common threads: 🧠 Severity and Duration When symptoms persist and intensify, the “wait it out” method no longer works. The pain begins to feel constant, and the tools you once used no longer help. 🧩 Disruption of Daily Life Mental health becomes a priority when it interferes with functioning—at work, in school, in parenting, in relationships, in the basic tasks of living. 💬 Support and Encouragement For many, it is the gentle suggestion of a friend, a teacher, a loved one: “Have you thought about talking to someone?” That can be the nudge toward action. 🧱 Stigma and Resistance The fear of judgment is real. So is the internalized belief that needing help is weakness. But challenging that belief is itself a turning point. 🌱 Personal Readiness Some people carry awareness of their mental health struggles for years before they are ready to act. And that readiness matters. Seeking help is not a checkbox—it is a commitment to healing. The Courage to Ask: Is There More? The question that starts the journey—Is there more to what I’m feeling?—is not a weakness.It is a sign of awareness. Of truth rising to the surface. You do not have to be at your worst to seek help.You do not have to “hit rock bottom.”You can simply be tired of holding it in. You can be curious about feeling better. You can be ready to remember who you were before the heaviness. Poem: “The First Yes” It started quiet—a thought I did not say aloud.A wondering.A whisper.A hope. Is there more than this? And when I finally asked,the answer came back: Yes.Yes, there is. You Deserve Support. Period. If you or someone you know is navigating any of these experiences, please remember this: Therapy is not for the broken. It is for the becoming. Seeking help is not the end of strength—it is the beginning of healing. You are not weak. You are wise for recognizing when something is off. You do not have to do it alone. There are resources available: mental health professionals, campus counselors, teletherapy platforms, hotlines, peer-led support groups, and online communities. Whatever step you are ready to take—it counts. Reflection Prompt: Where Am I Right Now? Am I carrying symptoms that I’ve normalized? Is my life being quietly disrupted by something I have not named? What would it feel like to talk to someone without judgment? What story am I ready to rewrite? Seeking help does not mean everything changes overnight.But it opens the door.And sometimes, that is all it takes to begin.

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Stage Two – Albedo: Reorganization After Collapse

A Clinical Essay on Early Identity Reconstruction Introduction Albedo is the second stage in the process of psychological transformation. Where Nigredo is defined by collapse, Albedo marks the beginning of structural reorganization. It is not resolution or recovery. It is the return of coherence after a period of internal disintegration. In classical alchemy, Albedo is described as the whitening — the phase where the blackened, broken-down material begins to clarify. In psychological terms, it represents the emergence of new internal structure. The work of this stage is slow, often imperceptible at first, and frequently misunderstood by both clients and clinicians. This essay outlines how Albedo manifests in clinical settings. It focuses on what clients experience emotionally, somatically, and cognitively during this stage, as well as what therapists must avoid. The emphasis is not on healing, but on the fragile return of access — to memory, meaning, and internal coherence. This is not the endpoint of recovery. It is the point at which recovery becomes possible. Client Presentation: Symptoms, Thoughts, and Emotional Response Clients entering this stage often describe feeling unsettled but no longer numb. The absence of collapse may not bring relief. Instead, it brings a new kind of discomfort — the return of awareness. Emotions that were previously inaccessible begin to reappear. Clients may report feeling more sensitive, more reactive, or even overwhelmed by minor triggers. These responses are not signs of regression. They are indicators that the nervous system is beginning to come out of a defensive state and re-engage with internal material that had previously been suppressed. Clients in Albedo begin to report a range of symptoms that may appear subtle but are clinically significant. These include emotional reactivity, irritability, hypervigilance, and fatigue not attributable to physical causes. Sleep disruptions are common as dreams become more vivid or symbolic. Somatic symptoms such as muscle tension, headaches, or gastrointestinal discomfort may return as the body begins processing what was once held in suspension. Thought patterns tend to shift from avoidance to reflection. Clients often report intrusive thoughts or looping mental patterns — not out of dysfunction, but because previously unprocessed material is surfacing. They may question long-held assumptions or feel uncertain about their beliefs, values, or social roles. The mind is reprocessing, not destabilizing. Emotionally, this stage is marked by ambivalence. Grief, guilt, and confusion emerge inconsistently. Many clients describe feeling exposed or raw, as if the protective layers they used to function through have thinned. While this exposure may create distress, it also signals increased emotional access. Clients are not “backsliding” — they are becoming more able to feel without total collapse. Cognitively, clients often experience disorientation. They may articulate being “in between versions” of themselves — no longer fully aligned with survival-based roles, but not yet grounded in a new identity. This in-between space is fragile and difficult to tolerate, particularly when clients feel pressure (from within or outside) to “move on.” Therapists must recognize this as a structurally necessary phase, not a sign of resistance. Behavioral Shifts and Client Needs Clients in Albedo may withdraw from relational roles or environments that no longer align with their emerging sense of self. They may begin to experiment with new forms of self-expression, boundary-setting, or language. These actions often appear inconsistent or tentative. This is not indecision. It is part of early reorganization. The client is testing new ways of being that are not yet stable. Therapeutically, the client needs containment — not direction. Premature insight, labeling, or interpretation can disrupt their ability to observe and tolerate emerging aspects of self. Clinicians must resist the urge to guide the process toward clarity or functionality. What the client needs is space to experience internal change without performance or pressure. Clients may develop internal permission to say “no” more frequently or stop performing in ways that previously protected them. They may no longer tolerate certain relational dynamics. These boundary shifts are often met with resistance by others, which can cause guilt or anxiety. Therapists must validate these shifts and help clients track their impact without encouraging closure before it is ready to form. It is also common for clients to revisit symptoms associated with Nigredo: emotional numbing, cognitive shutdown, or hopelessness. This does not mean regression. It means that the system is still integrating. Collapse and reconstruction do not occur in a straight line. Clients will move between stages as they build new internal coherence. What Not to Do in Therapy The Albedo stage is easily misread by clinicians who expect clear progress markers. Common missteps include: Encouraging meaning-making prematurely — Pushing for insight before the client’s system is ready can reintroduce performance expectations. Framing recovery as linear — Suggesting the client is “moving forward” may invalidate the nonlinear nature of reorganization. Pathologizing confusion — Misinterpreting questions or emotional shifts as instability rather than structural rebuilding. Reinforcing urgency — Directing the client toward decisions or actions that may interrupt self-observation. Clinicians must recognize that Albedo is not about fixing, improving, or reframing. It is about allowing — allowing the self to re-form at its own pace and shape, and tolerating the discomfort that comes with uncertainty. Therapeutic Role in Albedo The therapist’s role in this stage is observational, attuned, and non-directive. They must: Hold ambiguity — Recognize that the client may be functioning without a stable self-concept, and this is appropriate for the phase. Track small shifts — Pay attention to new questions, language, or emotional access that signal movement. Support emotional tolerance — Help the client remain present with difficult emotions without suppressing or intellectualizing them. Normalize oscillation — Frame emotional or behavioral back-and-forth as part of the system’s reorganization, not failure. Protect the client from pressure — Actively name and remove internalized urgency to “return” to a functioning version of self. Therapy in Albedo is successful when the client feels seen without being pushed, held without being interpreted, and allowed to witness themselves without being asked to explain it. Conclusion Albedo does not resolve collapse. It follows

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“Tired On Purpose”: Emotional Burnout and Capitalism

There is a kind of tiredness that sleep cannot fix. It is the tiredness of constantly performing worth.Of being useful, efficient, optimized, professional.Of pushing through when your body says stop.Of showing up when you have nothing left to give—because rest is seen as weakness, and slowing down feels like falling behind. This is not just burnout.This is burnout by design.And we need to name what is causing it: capitalism. Capitalism Trains Us to Ignore Ourselves From the moment we enter school systems, we are taught to measure our value by what we produce. Grades. Tasks. Output. Speed. Discipline. “Success.” These are rewarded. Pausing is punished. Stillness is suspicious. As we grow older, this conditioning intensifies: Work becomes identity. Hustle becomes culture. Exhaustion becomes a badge of honor. Rest becomes something you must earn. And beneath it all, this question hums constantly, sometimes loudly, sometimes in the background: “Am I doing enough?”“Am I allowed to stop?”“If I am not productive, do I matter?” This is not natural.This is not wellness.This is capitalism in the nervous system. Burnout Is Not a Personal Failure The modern conversation around burnout often centers personal responsibility.We are told to manage our time better. Set boundaries. Journal. Drink more water. Practice mindfulness. These are helpful practices. But they are not solutions.Because burnout is not just about what you are doing—it is about what the system demands from you. Over and over. Without pause. You are not burnt out because you are disorganized.You are not exhausted because you are broken.You are tired because you are living in a system that depends on your exhaustion. Capitalism requires your constant output, but offers you little rest in return.It praises overwork. It hides the cost.It tells you to rest, but penalizes you when you actually do. Burnout Has Layers—Especially for the Marginalized For people who live at the intersections of race, gender, class, disability, queerness, and chronic illness—burnout is not just physical or emotional. It is political. It is structural. It is generational. Because the pressure to “prove yourself” is heavier when the system already assumes you are lazy, emotional, unqualified, or disposable. So you work harder. Smile longer. Swallow rage. Numb grief. Stretch your boundaries until they break. And when you finally collapse, they call it weakness.They call it personal.They call it yours. But this is not just your pain. It is a pattern. Rest Is Not a Luxury. It Is a Right. Capitalism tells you that your value lies in your output.Healing says your value lies in your existence.Rest is not a break from the system. It is resistance to it. To choose rest—especially when the world says you do not deserve it—is a radical act.To unplug, to slow down, to disengage from constant production is to say:“I am not a machine.” And you are not. You are allowed to stop.You are allowed to breathe.You are allowed to want a life that does not revolve around burnout cycles. Poem: “Not Built for This” I was not builtto work until breakingto grind until emptyto smile while unraveling. I was not madefor endless outputfor hunger called ambitionfor burnout dressed as bravery. I was madeto restto feelto live. What Would It Look Like to Opt Out of the Burnout Script? What stories have I internalized about productivity and self-worth? What does my body feel like when I push past my limits? What would it mean to be gentle with myself—without guilt? What part of me still believes I have to earn rest? Who taught me that? This is where the unlearning begins. You Are Not Lazy. You Are Tired of Being Dehumanized. There is nothing wrong with you.There is something very wrong with a system that asks you to prove your worth through suffering. Burnout is not a personal flaw.It is a predictable response to a world that forgets we are human. And no—it is not your job to fix capitalism.But you can choose to reclaim parts of yourself that the system tried to take. Your joy.Your peace.Your rest.Your wholeness. That is a revolution in itself.

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Emotional Literacy in Therapy: Naming the Feeling, Rewriting the Story

Introduction We cannot heal what we cannot name—and nowhere is this more evident than in the therapy room. In recent decades, the fields of psychology and psychotherapy have increasingly recognized the pivotal role of emotional literacy in mental health and personal development. Emotional literacy—the ability to identify, understand, express, and regulate emotions—is a foundational competence in therapeutic work. Without the capacity to comprehend and communicate one’s emotional landscape, the process of healing, growth, and relational connection is often obstructed. This article explores the mechanisms through which emotional literacy functions in therapy, its essential role in psychological transformation, and the ways therapists cultivate this capacity in their clients. What Is Emotional Literacy? Emotional literacy goes beyond the scope of emotional intelligence. While emotional intelligence tends to emphasize interpersonal skills such as empathy and social awareness, emotional literacy focuses on the intra-psychic domain: the inner experience of emotions and the ability to navigate them with clarity. It involves naming emotions accurately, discerning their origins, understanding their functions, and selecting constructive forms of expression and regulation. This ability is not innate. It is shaped through early relationships, family dynamics, cultural context, and social modeling. Individuals raised in emotionally invalidating, chaotic, or emotionally absent environments often enter adulthood—and therapy—with significant gaps in emotional literacy. These gaps may manifest as alexithymia (difficulty identifying and describing feelings), emotional dysregulation, or challenges in forming secure, attuned relationships. For example, a client who grew up being told “you’re too sensitive” may learn to distrust their own emotional responses, arriving in therapy with a limited vocabulary for internal states. The Role of Emotional Literacy in Therapy Therapy serves as a structured, relational space in which emotional literacy is both assessed and developed. Across therapeutic modalities—psychodynamic therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and emotion-focused therapy (EFT)—the ability to identify and articulate emotional experience is central to therapeutic progress. Naming the Emotion Many clients enter therapy with somatic complaints, relational conflicts, or general distress, yet lack clarity about the emotional root of their struggles. Therapists help clients learn to identify subtle emotional distinctions—such as differentiating anger from resentment, sadness from shame, or fear from anxiety. These nuances matter. Naming an emotion with precision transforms a vague discomfort into something knowable, and therefore more manageable. Understanding Emotional Origins In psychodynamically informed approaches, therapists work with clients to explore the early experiences that shaped their emotional patterns. For instance, a chronic sense of guilt may stem from childhood environments where love was conditional, or self-worth depended on performance. By connecting present emotional reactions to past relational templates, clients begin to understand the architecture of their emotional life. Expression and Regulation Emotional literacy also entails knowing how to express emotions safely, effectively, and in alignment with one’s values. Modalities like DBT and EFT teach skills such as mindfulness, distress tolerance, and emotional validation. Therapy becomes a practice ground for emotional expression—a space where clients can test new ways of communicating feelings and receive attuned responses that may have been missing in earlier relationships. Therapist as Emotional Translator Therapists often act as emotional translators. They observe affect, body language, metaphor, and narrative gaps to help clients name feelings that are just below conscious awareness. This process—sometimes called mentalizing—allows clients to internalize a model of reflective emotional functioning. For example, a client who becomes irritable when vulnerable might, through therapeutic reflection, recognize that their anger is a defense against deeper fears of rejection. This awareness fosters self-compassion and allows for more open, less reactive relational patterns to emerge. The therapist’s role in this process is both to mirror and model emotional fluency, giving language to the unspoken and structure to the disorganized. Cultural Considerations Emotional literacy does not develop in a vacuum. It is expressed, interpreted, and regulated through cultural frameworks that shape emotional meaning and social acceptability. While core emotions may be universal, their permissible expressions, thresholds for intensity, and linguistic representation vary widely. In collectivist cultures, for example, emotions that promote group harmony—like deference or shame—may be encouraged, while assertiveness or open anger may be discouraged. In many individualist societies, the reverse often holds true. A therapist trained in a Western framework might misinterpret emotional restraint in a client from an East Asian background as emotional repression, when it may in fact be an adaptive form of emotional intelligence rooted in social cohesion and modesty. Moreover, some emotional concepts do not translate easily into English. The Portuguese word saudade conveys a deep, melancholic longing; the Japanese amae refers to the tender presumption of another’s care. These culturally specific emotions challenge therapists to move beyond a fixed emotional vocabulary and toward a more flexible, client-centered understanding of affect. To work effectively across cultural lines, therapists must approach emotional literacy not as a universal skill set, but as a culturally embedded competency. This includes: Curiosity over certainty: Asking clients how they define and experience emotions within their cultural context, rather than assuming a normative template. Language sensitivity: Collaboratively developing emotional language that resonates with the client’s worldview, even if it departs from clinical terminology. Therapeutic humility: Acknowledging one’s own cultural lens, and remaining open to emotional systems that differ from Western paradigms. A culturally responsive approach to emotional literacy not only prevents misdiagnosis and therapeutic rupture—it affirms the client’s emotional world as valid, coherent, and worthy of respect. Conclusion Emotional literacy is not a luxury—it is a psychological necessity. It enables individuals to name suffering, metabolize trauma, navigate relational ruptures, and construct meaning in the face of adversity. In therapy, emotional literacy is both a process and a goal: a process through which clients become attuned to their inner world, and a goal that supports lasting transformation long after therapy ends. When therapists nurture emotional literacy, they do more than increase self-awareness. They empower clients to develop an emotional vocabulary, promote reflective thinking, and build resilience in the face of emotional overwhelm. Yet for this work to be truly transformative, it must be grounded in cultural sensitivity, linguistic flexibility, and intergenerational context. In

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Grief as a Global Experience

Some grief is private.Some grief is ancestral.Some grief is so public, so raw, so violent, that the entire world feels it at once. The murder of George Floyd was one of those moments. We watched, many of us in real time, as a man begged for his life—for breath—for mercy—and was met with none. We saw what should never be seen. And though we did not all know him personally, millions of us wept. Protested. Prayed. Marched. Shouted. Sat in stunned, shaking silence. We grieved.Together.Globally. Not just for George Floyd, but for what his death represented.The grief was layered, historical, spiritual. It belonged to generations.It called up every name that came before him and every fear that lived within us. Breonna Taylor.Ahmaud Arbery.Tony McDade.Eric Garner.Sandra Bland.Tamir Rice.Trayvon Martin.Michael Brown.Philando Castile.And countless others—named and unnamed. It was not a new story.But this time, the whole world paused. What Happens When Grief is Collective Grief is often treated as an individual emotion. A private pain.But when a collective experiences injustice—especially injustice so visible, so intimate, and so brutal—grief becomes a shared language. In June 2020, people across over 60 countries marched, lit candles, raised fists, knelt in silence, and spoke the names of Black people murdered by police and systems of white supremacy. From Minneapolis to London, Accra to Berlin, Paris to Sydney, the pain echoed. This was not just American grief.This was global grief. Because racism, colonialism, and state violence are not unique to one country.They are global structures with local consequences.And the grief that arose was not only for the victims—but for the parts of us that have been taught to expect this. To normalize this. To survive this. This grief was not just about death.It was about injustice without consequence.About the weight of watching the same story unfold over and over, with different names. The Psychology of Global Grief From a psychological standpoint, collective grief behaves differently than personal grief. It activates vicarious trauma—the emotional residue of bearing witness to violence we cannot stop. It triggers historical memory—bringing up ancestral trauma, especially for Black communities whose generational lineages are marked by racial violence. It stirs moral injury—the feeling that what we are witnessing violates every sense of decency, fairness, and safety. It creates empathic pain—where we literally feel in our bodies the weight of someone else’s suffering. And it activates identity-based trauma, where we grieve because that could have been us. That could have been someone we love. For some, the grief emerged as tears.For others, as rage.For others, as numbness.For many—especially Black people—it emerged as exhaustion.And even as the protests faded from the headlines, the grief did not go away. It lodged itself in the nervous system. It stayed. Because global grief does not resolve quickly.It lingers.It resurfaces.It reshapes how we feel about the world—and ourselves within it. Grief is Also an Awakening As painful as that time was, something else was present alongside the pain: solidarity. We saw people show up who had never marched before.We saw children carry signs. Elders pray in the streets. Artists flood cities with murals and poetry and portraits.We saw people reckon.Not perfectly. Not always with depth. But something cracked open. Grief, when it is shared, has the potential to move people from silence to speech. From awareness to action. From numbness to witness. And that is powerful. It is not healing in itself—but it is part of healing.It is not justice in itself—but it is a signal that justice is overdue.It is not a cure for trauma—but it is a call to stop the bleeding. Poem: “We Grieved in Every Language” We grieved in every language—in fists and feetin prayers and paintin silence and in songson sidewalks and in courtroomsin hashtagsin holding each other. We grieved in every time zone—not because we all knew himbut because we all felt it—the knowing,the breaking,the breathlessness of being unseenfor too long. Grief Is Not the End. But It Must Be Witnessed. One of the most dangerous things we can do with collective grief is to move on too quickly.To bury it in performative allyship, surface-level reforms, or social media trends. Real grief asks for reckoning.Real grief demands change.Not just externally, but internally—in how we see each other. How we protect each other. How we refuse to return to “normal” when normal was built on violence. To grieve globally is to remember that we are interconnected.That what happens to one of us reverberates.That we are never untouched by injustice, even if it does not knock on our own door. Grief, When Honored, Can Lead to Transformation The work of grief is not only mourning what was lost.It is about fighting for what must be built.It is about refusing to forget.And it is about holding onto humanity—in a world that keeps trying to take it. This is the psychology of collective grief:It overwhelms.It connects.It demands.It shapes the future, if we let it.

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Identity, Erasure, and Power

There is nothing neutral about identity.Not in this world.Not in systems built to control, categorize, and commodify. Who we are—how we name ourselves, how we move through the world, how we are perceived—is not separate from politics, history, or power. It is shaped by them. And for many of us, it has been distorted by them. Our identities are not always freely chosen. Sometimes, they are inherited under pressure. Assigned without consent. Silenced by survival.And when systems benefit from our invisibility, they do not just ignore who we are—they actively erase us. Erasure is Not Silence. It is Strategic. Erasure is the quiet violence that removes our stories from the narrative. It happens when: Black history is reduced to slavery and struggle—but never joy, brilliance, or resistance. Queer and trans identities are debated as if they are ideologies, not realities. Indigenous voices are excluded from conversations about land, sovereignty, and climate. Neurodivergent people are taught to mask, to perform, to appear “normal” in exchange for safety. Women of color are expected to labor, but not to lead. To nurture, but never to need. Immigrant stories are told only in terms of productivity, not humanity. Erasure is not a mistake. It is an instrument of control.Because when your identity is erased, your power becomes harder to claim.If the system cannot see you, it does not have to serve you.If it cannot define you, it cannot own you.And so—it tries. To Reclaim Identity Is to Reclaim Power Naming yourself is not a trend.It is not an indulgence.It is a profound act of defiance. To say:“This is who I am.This is where I come from.This is what I believe.This is how I love.This is how I move, exist, speak, pray, dream.”—without shrinking, without softening it for others—is a reclamation. Reclamation is not always loud. Sometimes it is quiet. It is unlearning. It is walking away from labels that never fit. It is giving yourself permission to be complex, changing, unapologetic. It is refusing to be flattened into something small enough for a system to control. Power is Not Domination. It is Presence. For those of us who have been pushed to the margins, power often feels out of reach.Not because we lack it—but because we were never meant to recognize it in ourselves. Systems define power as dominance. But true power is the ability to be fully yourself—even in a world that benefits from your doubt. Your presence is powerful.Your truth is powerful.Your clarity is powerful.Your refusal to disappear is powerful. Power is also in care. In rest. In choosing softness when the world hardens you.Power is in protecting your peace.Power is in saying: I will not perform for systems that were never built for my freedom. Poem: “They Tried to Name Me” They tried to name mebefore I could speak—taught me what to shrink,what not to feel,who not to be. But I rememberthe sound of myself—unfiltered,unbent,unapologetically full. And I carry that nameback to the centerof everything I am. Reflection: What Has Been Erased—And What Will You Reclaim? What parts of yourself have you had to hide in order to survive? Whose comfort shaped your identity? Whose gaze shaped your choices? What would it look like to reclaim one small truth about yourself today? You do not owe anyone a performance.You are not required to stay small so that others remain comfortable. Reclamation is not about becoming something new—it is about returning to what was never really gone. This is Where We Begin to Unfold The stories we are told about ourselves are powerful.But the stories we tell ourselves—those are transformational. In this space, we will continue to explore identity through the lenses of race, gender, culture, ability, sexuality, trauma, and resistance.Not to explain ourselves to systems—but to see each other more fully.To see ourselves more clearly.And to reclaim the power that was always ours. You are not invisible here.You are not too much, too complex, or too proud.You are seen. You are sacred. You are whole.

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What to Do in a Crisis

Reach Out to Professionals: During a mental health crisis, your first move should always be to contact a mental health professional or therapist. Their expertise is essential for effective management and resolution. In Urgent Cases: If you can't access a hotline or a professional and need help immediately, the nearest emergency room should be your next stop.